Boyfriends or husbands that play video games a lot can frustrate their girlfriends or wives. Guys like the competitiveness of video games without having to put out too much money to play. The ease of playing as much as men want makes it easier to get into playing games on a regular basis. Online gaming has gotten really popular over the years. Guys get connected to their friends and make new “online friends” that they can play with. The more people that they connect with, the more competitive gaming gets.
If a guy seems to spend too much time playing games, it is not a knock against his girlfriend or wife. It is not that he would rather play games that spend time with you. Guys compartmentalize things. This means that they typically focus on one thing at a time. When they are playing an online video game, they are focused on winning or getting better so they can win more.
If your boyfriend or husband plays video games too much, what can you do? Trying to get boyfriends or husbands to quit playing video games can lead to him getting angry at his girlfriend or wife for taking his cheap and easy fun away. He will feel like you should find something similar that you like to do so that you won’t bother him while he plays. Try giving him a time frame to play. Designate a time as your time with him and give him advanced notice. If you try to designate time with him on short notice, he will feel like he has to stop his “campaign” or any coordinated plans with his “online friends” or teammates. If you give him advance notice, he will likely not get deep into play where he can’t leave the current game.
You can also try playing with him. If you are part of his gameplay and part of his team, you are more likely to be able to get him to get away from the game with you so that you can spend time together.
Don’t give up if your boyfriend or husband likes to play video games often. He probably still likes and loves you just as much as he did before.